Your standing in line at the buffet. You look down the line to see how long it is. You're starving and just want to fix your plate. The smell of the food is making your stomach rumble. You check down the line again, only this time you realise there are 4 servers standing behind each hot plate. Each are serving the same food. Then it dawns on you.
Who told you to wait in line? Who said you were not to approach the other servers? Why are you all lining up behind grandad in front? You look to your left, and to your right. This time you look at the line up behind you. You take one step to the right and start walking toward the other servers who greet you with a welcome and a smile. You now turn to see that half the line has moved behind you and the other half has started to move up and greet the other servers utilising each server.
Hesitating with practical thinking can sometimes be a huge hinderance in your growth. Taking the necessary actions to check your surroundings, realise if it's beneficial for you to stay in one place or to make a move, and then taking the necessary steps to taking action - can be frightening.
Taking the Lead to benefit yourself means fighting against your inner turmoil, feelings, those judging eyes, that political correctness, that voice in your head that tells you, 'Someone is going to put you down, judge, embarrass or argue with you about your choice if you take this step', can stop a lot of people in their tracks (or in this case the buffet line) from progression out of fear. Sure, there are going to be times where these things will happen, to every action there is a reaction right? But the more you 'step out of line', the more you are going to learn to deal with situations that make you uncomfortable. The more you will realise, 'Hey! What's the worst that could happen?'. If the answer to the question is honestly you disturb the world order of doing things, then I can honestly say - You will be OK.
What is the end result?
You motivated each and every person after you to either mirror and take lead, or to take steps in joining the group most beneficial for them. By thinking or stepping out of the box so to speak, we transform other's ways of thinking and either become contagious in our approaches, or teachers of out of the box thinking.
What is one thing that gets under your skin daily. One thing that every day you are like, "OMG not again, geez this really shits me off, every f#&*n day!". I challenge you to take that one thing, and to find the positive in it. For example; I hated the traffic! I could not stand being stuck behind mundane drivers and people who couldn't follow basic road rules.
I then did a trip to Bali and my whole traffic responses and reactions completely changed. The first day I was having extreme anxiety. I had no choice but to let the driver take control because there was no way I was going to have a heart attack driving these streets. On the second day of aggravation whilst being chauffeured I asked the lovely Balinese driver if he got angry that people were honking at him constantly, (and noted that he was doing it back with a smile). He explained that they see it as a sign of respect and thank you for letting them know that they are about to scrape up and hit the car. After the third day of sight-seeing and the shock of little road rules, congestion, honking of horns etc made me have a realisation. It is organised chaos.
Once I let go of my fear, I could relax and move forward with enjoying my holiday. What's the worst that could happen? I could have a crash and die right? My reasoning was that at least it would be doing something I loved, with no regrets. So, I stopped having them. I can say I came back to Australia appreciating what little traffic I used to get so wound up about, and when I find myself slipping into that mind frame, I take a breath and politely beep my horn, whilst smiling, knowing I have taken action to teach someone else a road rule.
It's all about our perception of things. I do not care if people are judging me or thinking that I am being rude. I am not responsible for their feelings. Just mine. So why wouldn't I make my place a pleasant world to live in?
Why don't you?
· Overcoming your fears will release anxiety and depression
· By taking the lead you help pave ways for improvement for yourself and others around you becoming a positive influencer.
· Hesitating with practical thinking can sometimes be a huge hinderance in your growth. Taking the necessary actions to check your surroundings, realise if it's beneficial for you to stay in one place or to make a move, and then taking the necessary steps to taking action - can be frightening.